When I was 36 and very single, I was hit by the narrowing of the time window to have my biological children. My first thought was I am a woman living in a modern time. I could logically separate being single and being a mother. I decided to become a single mother. I charted my basal body temperature daily for a couple of months. I took folic acid my girlfriend recommended when I remembered. I reviewed numerous profiles at a reputable donor bank in New England and got the sperms I needed. I had an IUI once, which failed. It is not necessarily an easy path for couples who try to get pregnant together. Doing it alone and failing felt devastating. I realized that I did not want to go down this path alone. So my journey to single motherhood ended abruptly and quickly.
The irony is there is absolutely nothing selfish about you. And you proved that in both your decision to try and your ultimate decision to live your glorious life. They were based on the logic of the moment, the inclination of your heart, not about taking, which is the hallmark of selfishness. The best phrase I know about this is: "The opposite of love isn't hate; it's selfishness." And everything you do stems from love.
The irony is there is absolutely nothing selfish about you. And you proved that in both your decision to try and your ultimate decision to live your glorious life. They were based on the logic of the moment, the inclination of your heart, not about taking, which is the hallmark of selfishness. The best phrase I know about this is: "The opposite of love isn't hate; it's selfishness." And everything you do stems from love.