Sometimes I wonder if men and women see first dates differently. When I used to meet a woman for that initial drink or dinner, I tried to be myself as much as possible but knew I was also putting on a certain face, trying not to look like a complete idiot. At the end of the date, whether or not I was attracted to the person, I was always open to a second meeting. I felt we’re just trying to make sure neither of us is totally insane, so why not give it another go?
Conversely, when I would ask a woman for a second date, they would sometimes turn me down. They were much more decisive.
I formulated a theory, which admittedly was my own personal perspective. I thought, when I go on a date, my main thought is, “could I eventually kiss this person,” whereas perhaps a woman thinks, “could I eventually spend my life with this person.”
I couch this as my opinion based purely on conjecture, but it may substantiate why we men sometimes drift into our 40s and are still looking for a life partner. We’re all about the thrill of the moment, throwing caution to the wind, not our long-term future and the work of a lasting relationship. My simplistic mind can only go from A to B, whereas women seem to be able to go from A-Z with relative accuracy.
First dates are mostly interviews, but they do establish certain chemistry. I wonder, are women just much better scientists?